Yesterday, we saw some possibilities on how to deal with the complexity of launching a successful small business today. And in that, we also talked briefly about possible beneficial personality traits. Then, at the end, I also recommended you grab a mentor. But what if you’re struggling to find a mentor? Long-story-short: this got me thinking about how to put personality tests, like Myers-Briggs or the Objective Personality System, to work.
You see, more and more, I hear from young men who say that they are unable to create strong relationships. Or they feel as if they aren’t forging solid alliances with men they can trust in business, civics, or personal adventures. And in our atomized society, it can sometimes feel impossible to find a more experienced mentor willing to connect with you and stick around through your journey.
It’s a challenging problem that is becoming much more widespread. So, let’s get a simple, temporary solution.
Now, you’ve probably heard of or taken a personality test before. They’re practically a dime-a-dozen in the corporate world. We’ve already mentioned the Myer’s-Briggs and the more complicated Objective Personality System. But there’s also new-comers like Deloitte’s Business Chemistry or the age-old DISC assessment. Of course, everyone seems to have their favorite.
And almost everyone loves to jerk themselves off over how special these make them feel.
But let’s put these tests to work and into context. Overall, you can debate the scientific backing (or lack thereof) of any of these programs. Even so, the goal is a familiar and fair one when it comes to dealing with humans. And that’s to categorize and label interpersonal preferences, temperaments, and social strategies. They seem to work best when used to help us understand communication habits and to raise our self-awareness. And sometimes they help hone healthy conflicts for better benefit.
For our purposes, however, we don’t need to think about all that beyond this task here, although you can choose which one you think does it best.
So, take your favorite test or even tests. And tally up a score.
For me, it’s fairly straightforward, and nothing I didn’t already know. Personality jerk off time: I tend to be a visionary and a driver. As a rather stereotypical INTJ, I almost exclusively care whether something is working or not. And scoring unusually high in Dominance, Conscientiousness, and Influence, I want things executed quickly, correctly, and with measurable impact. (I have yet to take the Objective Personality System profiling).
Oh, and I probably shouldn’t leave out that I score highly in two of the dark triad, Machiavellian-ism and narcissism.
Would you expect any less from a rogue businessman beset on taking over the world?
Anyway, you get the idea.
So, once you get a sense of where you stand, total up your personality traits. And then let’s find you some mentoring inspiration.
By enlisting your attributes, you can create a list of famous individuals who embody the very best of your characteristics. Once you have your personality description, simply divide up your goals into simple groupings. While you can modify these however you like to fit, for me, that’s…
- Appearance or presentation
- And mentality or outlook
Think of it like trading up your lifeless personality profile for an active roadmap of your standards for yourself.
Next, we simply find someone who represents the ideal of each of these for us. And who’s also in-line with our personality preferences. In my case, I’m currently using a mix of fictional and real-life characters. And more on that part in a moment. But given my personality, you’re probably not surprised to hear that they’re…
- Elon Musk for his lively mix of business and ambition
- Daniel Craig’s Bond for his refined appearance and presentation
- David Goggins for his ability to rise beyond what others said possible
- And a Zen monk for their stoic but playful mentality
Least you think this is too easy or not usable, stop and consider more.
For each of these categories, you have a clear persona to emulate, however closely you like. You also have a measure for where you might like to end up one day. And since we used public figures, you also have access to lots of their speeches, seminars, interviews, or writings.
Of course, there’s also their actions.
And in all those, you’ll find more mentorship than in most modern relationships with people older than you. (And for our characters like Bond, it’s okay if they’re fictional because in this case, their appearance still resonates with audiences.) While this isn’t a perfect form of mentoring, it can certainly act as a stand-in until you find a reliable mentor.
Of course, after years of looking for a new mentor after mine died, I found that I had become the mentor and to many young entrepreneurs. So, on that note, you can always reach out via email to chat when you have questions or want to share who you came up with for our exercise today.